【反応しない練習①】あらゆる悩みが消えていくブッダの考え方(The Practice of Non-Reactivity -Teachings of the Buddha)

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Hello, it's Atsuhiko Nakata.
Let's begin the lesson!
An extreme modern society.
I came back with the episode, "The Practice of Non-Reactivity -Teachings of the Buddha",
"Settling on Buddha in the End"!
It's about Buddha.
We may have mentors and great people in history to seek help from
whenever we have too much concerns
but in the end we settle on Buddha!
I'll be talking a lot about Buddhism.
Rather than focusing on difficult Buddhist concepts,
I'll talk about "The Practice of Non-Reactivity".
This is a famous best-seller.
It's a book titled "The Practice of Non-Reactivity"
written by a monk named Ryushun Kusanagi.
It says it's about Buddha's rational ways of thinking that reduces all our worries.
It may sound like a book about rational thinking in the field of business.
However, it is a book about relieving your concerns and Buddhism as well.
Even if you don't know much about Buddhism or any religion in general like Christianity,
I'm sure you would find the value of this book priceless for over centuries.
I hope you listen because this book gives you profound insight.
We all have our own worries.
There are all kinds of concerns.
Many people want to become popular.
I bet millions would gather if someone calls those who want to become popular.
You should check that out on social media.
If you write "#who_wants_to_be_popular" on Twitter,
you can find a lot of people with the same wish.
They'll comment, "Me, because I'm not popular."
Our worries are similar.
There will always be people who want to be popular.
There are many more concerns aside from that, too.
Some are sad because people don't buy their products.
Others worry because they aren't acknowledged or find it difficult to succeed.
Many people are also worried because they don't gain much followers on social media anymore.
Some of my concerns are also about getting more subscribers
and getting more views.
I have such concerns too.
I'm a YouTuber with 3 million subscribers, an average of a few hundred views on videos
and sometimes 1 million views. But even I worry everyday.
"What if I get less views tomorrow?"
"I hope I get more subscribers!"
"I want to get more subscribers than Seikin or Hikaru"
"and one day surpass Hikakin or Hajime Syacho's subscriber count"
"and be tossed shoulder-high as Japan's number 1 YouTuber!"
"But what if the views decrease before I become number one?"
I also feel nervous and anxious with my concerns.
I'm afraid of looking at the analytics.
These concerns exist, too.
We all have our worries.
But in defining what a concern really is,
Buddha's teachings become very helpful.
Buddha will ask what you think a concern is.
We should first think whether the concern is within us or outside of us.
Are the analytics bad?
Is your follower count declining?
However, people respond to things in different ways.
This is important.
For example, let's say there's an unexpected exam at school.
Some people may go furious.
"A surprise exam? I hate it!"
"Why didn't they tell us earlier? I should study first to get good grades!"
"I'm not ready. I can't show my true skills!"
"What's wrong with the teacher?" While some people would go angry,
others would be downhearted.
They would go, "I'm doomed. Mom's gonna scold me again for my low grades…"
On the other hand, some may be happy with the unexpected exam.
"Yes! I've been reviewing everyday so I'm sure I'll get a high score on this one!"
"Thank you so much, teacher!"
Everyone perceives things differently.
Some would like a sunny weather
while the others may not like it.
Similarly, concerns are the result
of the way we perceive and see things
rather than what they actually are outside.
Our emotional response happens inside us.
Concerns form not by the incident itself, but when we perceive it
and respond to it.
In that basis, Buddhism claims that humans have seven kinds of desire.
It says that we get stressed because
we try to go against the seven kinds of desire.
What are they?
The desire to live, for example.
A will to survive.
You all know the desire to sleep, desire to eat, and sexual desire, right?
We have the desires to live, sleep, eat, and the sexual desire.
There's also the desire to be neglectful, which makes you want to do nothing.
You lazily want to do nothing while the others work hard.
The sensory desire makes you want to listen to good music
and see beautiful things.
It makes you wanna watch YouTube, play games,
see beautiful paintings in an art museum,
buy nice clothes, see beautiful things, and listen to idol music.
These all stem from sensory desire.
The biggest problem that the author sees from modern society
is the desire to be acknowledged.
Like I said, when there's a surprise exam, some people would be angry because they can't show their true skills,
some would be afraid of their mother,
and others would be confident and happy.
These all stem from the desire to be acknowledged.
Wanting to gain more followers than Hikakin is also the desire to be acknowledged.
This desire dwells inside us like a monster
and gives us a hard time.
Sometimes, our worries last for a long while.
They aren't just a momentary thing.
That's what stresses us out.
For some reason, we sometimes suffer from it over a long period.
When that happens, we say it makes us feel uncomfortable.
We don't feel refreshed.
What does this mean?
It means that we don't understand
what actually our emotional response is.
We can't understand our concerns because we don't see it properly. Thus, we can't solve this suffering.
Buddha thought deeply about concerns.
In a sense, he was like a scientist.
Why do people have concerns?
How can we solve those concerns?
He's a great person who wanted to answer those questions in a scientific, medical, and rational way.
Therefore, Buddha says this.
There's a cause to all concerns.
And all causes have solutions.
We should first understand the cause in order to solve it.
We can't solve our concerns without understanding their causes.
It makes sense, doesn't it?
But people don't really think about the cause of their concern.
They emotionally react to it even before thinking or understanding it.
"Why did this happen to me!"
"I'll never forgive that jerk!"
"I still wake up at night because of what that jerk said 3 years ago."
"I'll never forgive him."
"Everybody says this anyway."
"That's why I'm doing it this way!"
Other people might find your concern very trivial.
But when they get the same concern, they suffer as well.
We don't think about the cause
because it seems silly.
I uploaded a video with my wife to celebrate 3 million subscribers.
I got over 1 million views as well.
Plus, I recently published a book titled "Eudemonics".
Despite that, I still want to surpass Hikakin. Seriously?
How silly, right?
But humans are born this way.
We suffer from concerns because we have desires.
But we should try not to react.
I should think first before just wanting to surpass Hikakin.
We should understand what's making us suffer.
Buddhism's teachings aren't mystic or spiritual.
We have this idea of it that a ray of light shines upon us,
we realize the truth of life, and float around. But that's not Buddhism.
The teachings are about rational thinking that Buddha came up with to free us from pain.
Amazing, right?
I'll use the teachings to ameliorate my concerns
about wanting to gain more followers.
You can do the same for your concerns.
What are you worried of these days?
What makes you anxious everyday?
Do you want more salary?
Is there a bag you want?
Maybe there's someone you dislike at work.
Or maybe your crush doesn't like you back.
Maybe you're in love with someone else, not your partner.
There must be all kinds of concerns.
Think about your concerns as you listen.
We should first understand our concern.
But how should we do it?
Buddha says there are three steps in understanding our concerns.
He came up with three simple steps.
When you're worried but don't know why
or when you feel bad but don't know why,
we should first produce that into language.
"I feel very angry right now."
See if you're angry or…
"I'm so exhausted."
See if you're exhausted.
Maybe you're sick of something.
Maybe you're anxious.
Maybe you're anxious because you want more subscribers.
Atsuhiko Nakata is on second place among YouTubers with 3 million subscribers.
The first place is Arashi, a super idol group.
So I'm a super speed YouTuber who is on second place, right behind Arashi.
But I, Atsuhiko Nakata, still feel anxious.
Doesn't it sound silly?
I'm already ranked high but I feel anxious.
I wanna grow more.
I wanna be on first place.
Maybe I can if I reach 4 million subscribers.
I may take Arashi's first place, too.
This might increase my income.
I may be acknowledged further.
I was never on first place in the TV broadcast business.
"The funniest comedian."
"Oriental Radio is the best."
"Atsuhiko Nakata, a genius comedian!"
I've never heard of them.
But now, maybe I could.
I may be able to accomplish things that I wasn't able to in the TV broadcast industry.
Right now, I'm producing my thoughts into language.
Producing one's thoughts into language is called labeling.
You may be able to feel less uncomfortable at least by doing so.
You should see if you're angry, anxious, sad, or insecure.
Maybe you're afraid, as well.
We should label our emotions.
Next step, feeling your senses.
It tells us to close our eyes.
Let's close our eyes.
This book, for example, tells the readers to close their eyes and look at their hands.
Close our eyes and look at our hands? What does that mean?
You may think it's better to look with your eyes open.
But we should close our eyes.
Bring it up and down.
We should sense where our hand is.
Feel the condition of your body.
Is it slightly angry?
Is it heated up?
If your heart beats fast, maybe you're upset.
If your legs feel stiff, maybe you're afraid.
By feeling the senses in your body this way,
you can check if your labeling was correct in the previous step.
You should be conscious of it by language and through the body.
This way, you can understand your concerns.
This is also called mindfulness.
It's not that difficult.
You just observe the senses in your body.
You can simply close your eyes in order to be mindful.
So when you have concerns, produce that into language or text.
"I feel so uncomfortable right now."
"I don't know what to do."
"I could say that I'm perplexed, as well."
Then close your eyes.
It feels like you're boiling inside.
It gets more breathtaking to breathe.
Being conscious just this much can gradually help you go forward.
After doing those two steps, let's move on to the third step.
It's classifying.
The book says we can classify our concerns in to three main categories.
Let's try classifying our concerns.
We can see things clearer when they're organized.
We can classify movies according to the genre, like action movies.
This is also classifying.
Some people love action movies.
Some like movies of sad human dramas.
Others may like suspense movies about society.
Through classification, we can gain more information.
We can narrow it down to whether it is a sports broadcast,
an educational broadcast, or a variety show.
The same goes for concerns.
What are the three categories of concern?
First is greed.
Here we have it. Greed.
We desire and expect too much.
My concern can be classified here.
"I wanna reach 4 million subscribers quick!"
"I'll definitely surpass Arashi this time and be called handsome like Boys Over Flowers!"
"I wanna be called that I'm the one like an idol!"
"I'm better at the center than Jun Matsumoto!"
People have high expectations like this.
Next is anger.
So there's greed and anger.
Why doesn't anybody think that I'm the number one comedian?
"Oriental Radio is not funny at all."
"Nakata isn't funny."
Anger makes us continue to think about such words.
Thirdly, it's delusion.
Over confidence, anxiousness, superiority and inferiority, good and evil.
What does over confidence mean?
Thinking that YouTubers with many subscribers are great is an overly confident thought.
There are channels that are great regardless of the subscriber count.
Those with low subscriber count but many views actually have more income.
Compare that to channels with 10 million subscribers but 300 views only.
I'm not sure if that actually happens but theoretically it can.
Some channels would be like this.
Isn't wanting to gain more subscribers a part of over confidence?
I told you earlier that I'm afraid of getting lower views.
We should see where this anxiety comes from.
It's an unidentifiable anxiety.
Also, thinking that I'll be better when I'm on first place is classified into superiority and inferiority.
And my delusion determines the good and evil.
I have these tendencies.
Under anger, there's sadness from a sense of loss, frustration, and insecurity.
Frustration happens like this.
Back when I had my debut, I must have wanted to do my own show for 10 years
during the peak time.
But I wasn't able to and felt such emotions.
I bet I have my insecurities as well.
I've never won in "M-1 Grand Prix" or "R-1 Grand Prix".
The fact that I never got awarded as a comedian can be my insecurity.
With the three classifications of greed, anger and delusion,
you can see that my concerns fit into each category.
That's right, everyone has their own hardships.
There are things that humans easily fall for.
Thinking of it this way, don't the concerns seem more trivial now?
Why do we want them so bad?
Why do I want 4 million subscribers?
Maybe it's enough. Maybe I'm the only one being overly confident.
Did someone actually tell me that I'm a horrible comedian just because
I have never won in a show race?
Hence, it's all in your mind.
Even though I didn't accomplish my dream of hosting my own show for 10 years during the prime time,
I'm already doing my best as a YouTuber today
so some would say that I don't have to feel frustrated.
Perhaps I also don't need the over confidence that I need more subscribers.
I should think why I don't focus on comments that like my videos.
I should be grateful of the comments.
Perhaps it is more important to strengthen the bond between
my subscribers who want more of my content
and me, who want to produce more fun videos.
This way, you can see the situation objectively.
This way, you can objectify yourself.
"That's right!"
"What's gonna change if I reach 4 million subscribers?"
"Nothing. It'll be the same."
"I'll still be making videos."
"If that content isn't fun, I won't be able to fall asleep again."
See?
That's right.
After labeling your emotions, practicing mindfulness of your senses,
and classifying your concerns, you can finally see what's troubling you.
Very rational, don't you think?
You'll feel much better just be the three steps and three classifications.
I hope you try it out.
I would like to emphasize the next part because it's very important.
Never degrade yourself at all times.
It's this one.
I run my own online community.
I enjoy communicating with over 3,000 members
and listening to the concerns and stories of various people.
But I learned one thing in that process.
What do you think it is?
We degrade ourselves when neglected.
We're quick to degrade ourselves.
If we keep ourselves neglected,
there'll be a Whac-A-Mole game in our mind where moles
show up to degrade us even when we hear compliments.
This would happen everyday, every second.
A part of us would continue to degrade us.
"It's not gonna work for me anyway.", "I knew I'm gonna have bad luck today."
"Look at me. I'm on a diet but I'm eating potato chips!"
"I made a mistake at work again."
"I hurt someone today as well."
"I slept in today!"
"I was late to the meeting."
"I made a mistake in the Zoom meeting!"
"I did this…", "I did that…"
This happens all the time.
We all compare ourselves to people who perform better.
We degrade ourselves every second.
Why is degrading ourselves unhealthy?
Let's use rational thinking.
As we continue to degrade ourselves,
the desire for acknowledgment increases.
Everyone has that desire.
This desire would dry up.
This would soon lead us to feel displeasure.
We'll be displeased.
Due to self-degradation, the desire for acknowledgement will dry up and cause displeasure.
In order to stop feeling that way, people would do something else.
That is, to attack someone.
We may attack someone else, or ourselves.
It's this.
I'll give you my example.
I degrade myself because the TV industry and the comedian industry do not acknowledge me.
"TV was a thing in the past! It's now the era of YouTube!"
This is me attacking the other people.
"Comedy isn't everything!"
"Music and YouTube's variety content are also fun."
"Don't be desperate for M-1 Grand Prix."
"Comedians who only aim for M-1 Grand Prix are lame."
It makes me want to say these things.
That's because the aggression towards the others stem from
the desire that was caused by self-degradation.
"The channels with a lot of subscribers are mostly for kids."
"But channels for kids aren't apt for growth…"
This is how one would attack the kids' channels.
We end up attacking other things because of our desires without knowing why.
You don't need to do that once you understand yourself.
M-1 Grand Prix and funny story-telling are great content in their own ways.
They persist because there's a demand for them.
TV shows are great content, too.
We still have them because people find them great.
There are still a lot of great people in the TV industry.
So attacking them would be meaningless.
Self-degradation leads to such aggression.
So it's important whether you get hurt or not.
There's also a chance that you attack yourself out of displeasure due to self-degradation.
"I'm not good, anyway…"
"I'm so dumb."
"I'm nothing."
"I don't even deserve to breathe!"
You end up attacking yourself.
Then you degrade your sole existence as well.
It's very unfortunate.
"I'm a nobody…"
"It doesn't matter even if I get compliments."
You end up not hearing what the others say and attack yourself.
Secondly, what happens if you don't attack?
You run away.
Self-degradation, desire for acknowledgment, attacking or fleeing.
You don't feel like doing anything.
You think that it's meaningless for a nobody like you to do something
so you just wait till the day you die.
You feel depressed or become dependent on something.
Some people end up binge-eating.
Some people alcoholics.
Others get addicted to games.
Some get addicted to shopping.
These are all acts of avoidance.
It also stems from self-degradation.
You believe that the reason of dissatisfaction comes from you.
You think you can't help it because you're born a nobody.
You don't care about yourself.
You end up avoiding or becoming dependent.
This is a huge problem.
These two are very dangerous.
Showing aggression towards the others and self, avoidance due to depression and dependence.
See how dangerous these four outcomes are?
We just didn't understand that these four outcomes
all stem from self-degradation.
Because we didn't know, our worries and concerns have been there deep within us.
I hope you remember forever that we should never
degrade ourselves.
Write that down on your DNA. Alright?
Never degrade yourself at all times.
It doesn't do anything good.
Here we have the exercise that prevents self-degradation.
[Next episode – The Right Motivation to Live Happily in a Competitive Society]
Living in a competitive society
and living without concerns.
Not degrading ourselves can be applied in these two.
We can live without worries.
This is our only weapon.
"Mercy, sadness, happiness, abandonment!"
"Write that down."
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Yes.
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