【反応しない練習②】競争社会で悩まず生きるための正しい動機とは?(The Practice of Non-Reactivity -Teachings of the Buddha)

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Here's the exercise to prevent us from degrading ourselves.
It's an exercise that prevents self-degradation.
Self-degradation is very dangerous.
This exercise exists because self-degradation is that toxic.
I brought you the exercise that can help us regarding that.
Yup, I'm Buddha.
Exercise to prevent self-degradation.
First, walk step by step.
Going on a walk, you mean?
Is it seriously telling me, someone who wants more subscribers, to go for a walk?
You can freely go on a walk.
The bottom line here is that you should do it step by step.
Don't just blindly go to work. Have a slow walk outside.
This is another practice of mindfulness that focuses on your senses.
It's actually pretty hard to close your eyes and feel your senses.
It's probably hard to do it daily.
So you can rather leave your phone and go on a walk outside for 10 minutes.
This can already change you.
"Not again. I'm such a loser."
There are times when we wake up late at the night.
When we check the time, we'll see that it's 3:20 AM.
You find yourself not being able to sleep, so you check Twitter
and end up seeing an upsetting comment.
Someone is disagreeing with your opinion. Quite annoying, right?
Then the self-degradation continues.
There's that time of the day when we fall into self-degradation.
It's really unhealthy.
That's when you should give yourself time to walk outside.
You'll feel a lot better.
You should try practicing mindfulness.
Why?
Concerns are not concrete things that fill up the world.
They only exist inside our minds as emotional reactions.
That's why they can subside with a little change of behavior.
One more thing.
I hope that you also
see the world.
This can prevent overconfidence.
Apparently, we fall into delusion the most.
If you thought greed was practiced the most among greed, anger, and delusion, you were wrong.
Delusion is the beginning of everything.
Humans tend to be too certain about things.
We use our own standards for inferiority and superiority, good and evil.
We think people of a certain condition are superior.
We have our ideals about a successful life.
We have our own standards for a good society.
These are the overconfidence we may show.
But interestingly,
we get surprised when we transfer to another home or workplace.
We realize that the definitions we had in mind were all just delusions.
I hope you experience this feeling.
School can also be an example.
Let's say your previous school was strict with everything.
But in your new school, no one cares.
Right?
"Your skirt is too short!"
"Who told you to dye your hair?" Your previous school may have punished these students.
But when you transferred to another school
they say, "We don't have uniforms. You can style your hair the way you want."
This may surprise you.
The same goes for work.
Some companies are strict with punctuality.
But there are also companies where you can go to work whenever you want, and sit wherever you want like in a café.
That's how it works.
Did someone tell you that you're trash for doing nothing productive?
You won't hear that if you move to another place.
Someone might have told you that you're not gifted as a stage actor because of your small voice
but you might get scouted in other places because your voice is gentle and pleasant.
You might get more attention if you get scouted from somewhere else.
You might be able to play a role in a duo skit with your small voice.
What do you is right?
So concerns are all a delusion.
We should go out.
I also had a lot of concerns.
I no longer have standards that define a comedian.
Being a YouTuber and being a comedian are two different things.
Kajisac is outstanding because
he's the first comedian to say highly of way younger YouTubers despite having
his senior-junior relationships in the rigid world of comedians.
"Hikaru! Raphael!"
"Mizutamari Bond! Hikakin! Fisher's!"
That's how he entered the industry.
Those with their "celebrity pride" often look down
on YouTubers in TV shows.
"I'm different from a YouTuber. They're people who enjoy adding Mentos in coke."
Many people have that idea of YouTubers.
"What's the difference between part-time job terrorists and YouTubers?"
"They're people who are loud and cause harm to others."
"Aren't they people who upload weird videos to earn money?"
Kujisac is way different from such celebrities.
The industries are different.
Comedians prioritize hierarchy.
Junior comedians must show respect to the seniors.
But he entered a completely different industry with way younger people
and showed respect first.
That's the thing.
Once you have to follow a different custom, your overconfidence disappears.
One last thing.
Tell yourself, "I acknowledge you."
We should say this to ourselves.
"I acknowledge myself."
This is important.
The key point is,
we tend to become conceited as well, in opposite from self-degradation.
Humans are creatures that waver between self-degradation and self-conceit.
In Buddhism, being conceited is equivalent to being delusional.
People sometimes fear degrading themselves
and want to be at ease by being delusional, thinking that
they are outstanding.
They become too lenient of themselves.
They believe that they are great, always right,
will become greater, and are the best.
Such conceit is dangerous
because it is only a delusion.
It's great if you're confident about a skill that you're good at.
But being overconfidence about something
that you cannot even do and thinking that you're amazing is dangerous.
You must've seen people who say this
even if they aren't that outstanding.
"I'm an excellent person."
Speaking or treating older people aggressively is an example of conceit and being delusional.
The key point is not to think of yourself highly.
"I acknowledge myself"
means to accept yourself.
I should acknowledge myself at all times,
whether I have 100 subscribers, 100 followers, or even 10 only
to acknowledge I'm doing my best.
That's what we should do.
We're all doing our best.
Although not everyday, you may be uploading once in three days.
You wanted to start YouTube and finally uploaded a video.
You should encourage yourself this way.
"I've been doing my best all along."
"I wasn't able to accomplish everything but at least I achieved 60%."
It's important that you acknowledge your efforts this way.
This would be easy to forget
because everyone has a degree of greed.
We should tell ourselves, "Good job."
It shouldn't go like, "I'm a gifted person who will surpass Hikakin and Hajime Syacho."
"I'll be the super YouTuber!"
That's just being conceited. It's dangerous.
I don't have to feel anxious.
I've been doing my best all along.
I've been uploading videos at my own pace since April 2019 till the winter of 2020.
I used to record strange videos with my smartphone at first
but now I even have YouTuber friends to collaborate with.
I also have a lot of ideas planned out.
People like my videos.
Some say that their children enjoy studying after watching my videos.
Some say they passed exams after watching my videos.
People greet me in the streets and say that they enjoy my videos.
It's the best joy I can get.
This is how you should think about yourself!
Some of you may probably be thinking this.
"I get it. I get what self-acknowledgment means."
"But I can't earn with only 100 subscribers no matter what I do."
"That's my reality."
"This is a competitive society."
"I want my videos to get monetized."
"I wanna be successful and be ranked on top!"
"I'm Leiber and I sing live."
"Please press like, retweet and give me money."
"I can't go on auditions if I don't get into the TOP 10."
"Nakata, self-acknowledgment isn't gonna earn me money."
"What should I do?"
Calm down. I understand that too.
I know that we're living in a competitive society.
But the options we have aren't limited to whether we'd compete or not.
There are more options than just thinking
"That's it, competing is meaningless. I'll give up and go live in the mountains."
and "I'm going to beat that person and become successful!"
I'm not saying that going to the mountains is escaping.
It depends on how you go to the mountains.
It's not that you should choose whether to compete or not.
The way our heart moves is the way we see the world.
In other words, you can enjoy the competition and continue to do your best without being concerned.
Of course, becoming successful is a good thing.
But the problem is that you're worried because you're not successful.
Being successful means to work and achieve actual outputs.
But you'll have concerns once you think bad of yourself for not becoming successful quick.
These two are completely different.
Living in a competitive society
and living without concerns.
You can live without degrading yourself.
This is the most interesting part of the video.
Relax, classify your concerns, and acknowledge yourself.
This may sound too idealistic for some of you.
Continuing to surpass someone else in this competitive society
in order to make yourself a rank higher
and being concern-free can coexist.
What does that mean?
The way you see the world can change depending on the way your think.
In other words, we should have the right motivation.
You might have been using the wrong motivation as a source of energy.
That energy is called degradation.
Sometimes it might target the others.
"I wanna surpass him."
"I wanna win against him."
"I wanna show that I'm better than he is."
Or it may be self-degradation.
"I'm hopeless.", "I can't be me if I don't put more effort."
Maybe you can't forgive yourself when you're not ranked first place.
Have you ever used degradation towards yourself or others as energy?
I bet you did.
You may feel unforgiving towards yourself when you're not on first place or when you lost.
Maybe you can't forgive yourself when you lose against someone else.
That's degradation.
However, there's the right kind of motivation that you should use.
If you can have that right kind of motivation
you can live this competitive society with no concerns.
That's our only weapon.
There are four keywords.
Mercy, sadness, happiness, abandonment.
Dun, dun, dun, dun!
Mercy!
Sadness!
Happiness!
Abandonment!
Sounds very Buddhist and nice, right?
Dun, dun, dun, dun!
"These are what you don't have."
"That's the reason why"
"you only gained energy from the degradation of yourself and others."
"You fall into self-degradation, saying that you don't wanna be"
"your current self, whenever you lack chakra."
"Or you only gained energy by degrading others, thinking that you want to beat them."
"Look what's inside you."
"Your chakra is very unclean."
"That's why you can't gain true energy."
"Master…!"
"What should I do with my chakra?"
"Can you handle it?"
"Mercy!"
"Sadness!"
"Happiness!"
"Abandonment!"
"Mercy, sadness, happiness, abandonment!"
"Remember them."
So this is how it goes.
What are they?
Mercy means to wish others luck.
It's being merciful.
You should wish luck for someone you know.
I upload videos on YouTube and my viewers love them.
They're happy watching my videos and I hope they like it more.
Why can't I focus on this?
What does that have to do with it?
What does surpassing Hikaru or Hikakin
have to do with the quality of my videos?
The two aren't related.
Even my family like it because I continue to upload videos.
They always watch my videos and say that they enjoyed it.
Let's be merciful towards the others.
What do you do for work?
Do you sell products or convey services?
I'm sure people feel thankful for it.
I bet the others would appreciate that you're selling that product.
That's why you're getting your salaries or guarantees.
Nothing in this world is not appreciated.
So it's better to focus on making those people happy
by thinking who would appreciate what you do.
We gain problems because we focus on our salaries and positions.
Our chakra isn't clean!
I just made that up.
It's not what Buddha said.
I just made it up like in animations.
Next.
Sadness.
This isn't directed towards ourselves. Rather, it means to empathize with others' sadness.
We should help others when they feel sad.
I'm making videos to show that learning is fun.
I wanna convey history and news in an easy way so people won't find them difficult.
I know, books are difficult.
Even renowned books are hard to read.
That's why I want to explain them in an easy way.
Next, happiness means to empathize with others' happiness.
It doesn't mean to show off your own happiness.
You shouldn't say, "See how happy I am for getting 4 million subs in the shortest period!"
I try to relate to your happiness.
I leave hearts on comments that say they understood easily with my videos.
I also give hearts to comments that say they enjoyed it.
My teacher, Kajisac, said that I should not stop giving hearts.
I recall him wearing that red jersey.
"Nakata, did you forget to give hearts again?"
"Are you tired?"
"You shouldn't be!"
"You shouldn't stop giving hearts."
He's very strict.
I get several hundred comments in one video.
It's difficult to give hearts to all of them. Plus, some are toxic comments.
Sometimes, I press the heart button and something pops up
before I lose everything. So it's difficult to do it all over again.
Despite that, I continue for the others' happiness.
This is how it works.
We should empathize with the others' sadness and happiness.
We all want others to empathize with our sadness and happiness, so we should do it first.
Here's the last one.
Lastly, it's abandonment.
We have to abandon something.
We should get rid of greed, anger, and delusion.
There's a time when we should abandon the three categories of concern called greed, anger and delusion.
You're all doing a great job coming this far into the video.
You may feel so uncomfortable that you don't wanna go to work or school.
You may not want to meet anybody and not feel happy even when something good happens.
So you label your emotions.
You figure out if you feel awkward, anxious, sad, or angry.
You label them through mindfulness.
You realized you're angry so you calm yourself down.
Next, you classify your concerns.
Then you realize that you have greed.
You also find out that you were overconfident and delusional.
Next, you decide not to self-degrade, be aggressive, or run away.
You then learn about mercy, sadness, and happiness within the competitive society.
That means you can get to abandonment.
You may hit me for telling you to abandon your concerns when you're already feeling uncomfortable
but you can if you have come this far.
You are able to do it.
The greed to quickly reach 4 million subscribers.
The anger stemming from the desire for acknowledgment in the comedian industry.
The delusion that I'll become great if I have the fame and money.
We should abandon all of them.
But that doesn't mean you shouldn't improve.
The YouTube world is tough.
But continuing to express yourself and
abandoning it are completely different.
Me making new videos, and falling into anger and delusion
are unrelated to each other.
Right, they're not related.
Uploading new videos, monetizing them and earning money
is totally not related to reaching 4 million subscribers to take revenge
against the comedians and giving a successful grin.
Just let it go.
I let go of the thought about merely wanting to gain more subscribers.
I let go of the desire to take revenge against the comedians and the TV industry.
I also let go of the thought that money and subscriber count decide one's worth.
Here I am, Atsuhiko Nakata, after letting go of everything.
Master.
Master Buddha!
I'll give you a heart.
How are your concerns?
It doesn't matter.
You've already come this far.
Even I, a greedy person, was able to do it.
So I'm certain you can let go of them too!
So cheer up.
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